Why We Chose Domestic Adoption:
We have a heart for both domestic and international adoption and plan to adopt internationally at some point; however, as we began the overwhelming task of researching adoption we found that domestic adoption offers clear guidelines and parameters (as much as possible) and we were able to find an amazing agency within miles of our home. We decided that for our first child we would walk through domestic adoption of an infant, and then see where God leads us in the future in regards to choosing a country or age for future international or domestic adoptions.
How and Why We Chose Christian Homes and Family Services for our Agency:
Back in the fall of 2011, we received an invitation in the mail to attend an event benefiting Christian Homes and Family Services. David L. Cook, the author of the book Seven Days in Utopia was scheduled to be the keynote speaker. We had recently seen the movie based on the book and really enjoyed it, so we were excited about the possibility of hearing the author speak. In addition, God had begun tugging on our heart about adoption, so we were also naturally interested in the event. God used the event to speak to us in many ways and as a vehicle for nudging us to begin our adoption journey.
It was at this point we began to research the MANY different avenues for adoption. This process can be extremely overwhelming, but if you are considering this process I would encourage to just begin searching the Internet and reading all that you can. In addition, talk to people you know and spend lots of time in prayer over this decision.
We had already heard great things about the agency and were very impressed from the event we attended, but we didn't just stop there. We spent hours and hours reading all that we could about all the different ways to adopt. In the end, we chose Christian Homes.
We believe the history of the Agency speaks for itself. I have included the history below (from their website - I have bolded some points that were important to us). In addition, one of the things we loved about the agency was their incredible ministry to the birth mothers. Yes, we could have chosen to go through the state (which is very needed form of adoption) but for us the birth mother is paramount and we believe shining Christ to her through this agency is another way we can indirectly impact her.
At our orientation, they were very upfront with us in saying that they are not the cheapest agency out there but they are also not the most expensive (they right in the middle). They helped us to understand the costs involved and why they believed these costs were necessary and important to both the birth mother, us, and the baby. To us excellence in ministry is very important and we believe Christian Homes and Family Services does that well. Their history is listed below and then I have included the approximate cost of the adoption below that.
Our HistoryChristian Homes Fee Schedule:
- Pre-application - $95
- Orientation - $250
- Application - $750
- Home Study - $1500
- Social Services - $4,800
- Marketing - $6,000
- Match/Placement - $10,000 - $25,000 (sliding scale based on income of adoptive family)
- Parental Termination - $1,500
- Consummation - varies
Approximate Total Costs - $25,895 - $40, 895
Hopefully this gives you a better idea of why adoption costs so much and helps you have a little insight into this huge process. We believe it is important to be transparent with people, as much as possible, about the process of adoption because that helps you to better understand how you can love and support us through this journey, but hopefully it will also give you a heart for caring for the orphans in some way as well.
We are all called to care for the orphans, but we are not all called to adopt. You might consider helping to care for the orphans by supporting our family through prayer, donating your time or services, or donating financial resources to help provide a home for a child.